Malakai's Thoughts

 This week I learned what it means to take care and provide for your family, what may usually be the role of the father. I read an article of what it meant to be a father and it was interesting, some things I agree with, but some things I may disagree with as well. The article was Dad vs. Father: what's the difference and why should you care?, by Daniel Ruyter, and the article's main point discussed whats the difference between the definition of being a biological dad, and someone who is there for child, someone who provides for them, loves them, cares for them, helps them grow. He brings up how many fathers in america will be the biological father, but are out the door or are not caring in the way it is to be a dad. He was a single dad with 2 boys, and he did more caring than a father who left who may have 5 children. The top 5 takeaways I would get from this article is, be a caring dad not just a father, dad and father have two different meanings, the term dad has a lot of me...

This week I learned a lot about communicating with the family. In my own Family many of the fights are just from lack of communicated and I think to myself, if only every one can discuss all their feelings before jumping to conclusions their wouldn't be this contention. It can be hard to be the middle man between two family members who are not talking, and use you to communicate. It's like playing a game of telephone and usually the information will get mixed up along the way. Communication is a very important tool, because once one family member decides to cut you off, it could have troubling effects on your relationship and you aren't able to talk it out to make things better. What I find interesting is how we can sense how someone is feeling mostly from their body language, Second tone of their voice, and then lastly their words can sometimes hardly reflect how they are actually feeling. I can tell when someone doesn't want to be around me, even if they say they do, ...

 I am someone who always tries to avoid any conflict. That is probably why I am the one in the family who never gets in fights, the one who is always trying to talk others down from fights, and hiding when contention starts to erupt. This has been a good thing in life for sure, but also a problem because I can also be a push over or someone who avoids conflict when I need to address the problem instead of letting the problem get out of hand. Stress is definitely a good thing to have surprisingly. I have to admit, before I took my family relations class I wanted to wait to get married and have children after I had finished school and had a job, so my family wouldn't have the stress of having to deal with having a low budget. Although having to go through those hard times can strengthen a family. Children who never have to work for anything in life and have wealthy parents aren't successful as children who didn't have as much and had to work for what they have, because they v...