Dating

 Dating is so important more than ever for people to get to know others in our society. I noticed friends I have talked to are very afraid to date, including myself, because of rejection. I saw the dating for fun model as kind of bad, because it showed you didn't call back it meant you weren't in to me and felt that I was less special because I knew they would be dating with many other people. I see that those are my own insecurities, because with friends I notice if I am not as outgoing as they like, they may get board of me and move on. Those friends aren't as good compared to the ones that will stay by you even on your boring days. Although it's always good to have many friends, just don't move on from your loyal friends just because someone of better comes into your life at the moment.

I am of full support now for the date around model, because you can meet different types of people. The problem with quickly getting into a relationship is you can't experience the fun of being single and going on many dates. You have the rest of your life to be married and in a relation ship with one person, but only have a few years where its acceptable to have no consequences to date who ever you desire. I also do now have a problem with just going over to someones place to hang out instead of going out to a proper date. Having someone over just to hang out shows you don't care for their time, and their seen as just another friend instead of a date. 

I think many people are now use to online dating because they are afraid of interacting with others. This generation is also the generation that is use to watching porn. They are unable to feel what a real healthy relation ship feels like, because they can just experience their romance while watching porn. This creates it hard to talk to real people, because they are only use to watching fake unrealistic relationships. They don't know what it's like to be rejected, because there is no rejection while watching porn. Relating back to dating around, going on multiple dates is hard, because there is always the risk of being rejected. Being rejected is part of life, and is a way to strengthen your self confidence in the long run by realizing it hurts less every time you're rejected and how good it feels when you do get accepted. So go date around, because it will in return strengthen your self confidence.

The Ram model Is very important and also relates as well.  The ram model focuses on first Know the person. Than you can trust. Than rely and commit. Than lastly you can touch. The problem with many relationships people look for that desire to be touched and feel that connection with someone, but when that feeling goes away you don't know or trust this person you are in a relationship with. That relates back to dating around because you can get to know people and see what you like, and then when you meet someone you really like you can comeback to that person and start steady dating. 

Why it's also better to wait and not steady date until you are ready to actually get married. Well I think many people in this generation steady date, because this generation is lonely and want someone to comfort and support them. Although, if you aren't going to get married and are steadily dating you're going to hit a brick wall. You're going to want to do things a married couple want to do or you're going to have to break up. It may put stress on the relationship if one person may want to go further and the other doesn't.

Of coarse someone may have no problems in their relationship if they don't go the traditional route, but this is a route a would recommend. 

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