Adjusting to marriage

 This week I recently watched a tik tok of a woman who was saying how wrong everyone was who was telling her to have children were. She says she was told she would be lonely and regret it later when shes too old and wish she would of had children. Now she's 50, Debt free and living the life she's always wanted.  In the comments many others were happy for her, and were agreeing with her choice. I disagree, with her choices, but I think if she doesn't want to have children others should respect her choices. Although it's sad to see her and many others influencing others by giving them a false reality that life is better when you choose your self over raising children. You will also see this in our society by showing women they are better off in the workforce than at home watching their children grow up. Another reason many of these people don't want to have children and are following this trend is they don't want to grow up and have responsibility. This generation is stuck living at home and don't know what it's like to have their own responsibilities.

Europe is an example of what will happen if we choose ourselves over raising the next generation. In Europe they were afraid of overpopulation so they would encourage people to have fewer children. Now as their are few children in the next generation in Europe their won't be enough people to take care for the older generation and take on for the next generation. Now that these European countries have these problems they cant influence these people to have children again, because they realize how good life is without children. No debt. Free to travel. 

Having children can have a toll on your relationship. The turning point for many marriages for whether it will last is the burdens a child can bring. The rising expenses can add stress as couples can argue on how to spend it. The lack of sleep of having to take care of a baby every night. The relationship will not be the same compared to when it first started and you may feel like you lost that love. Other people feel like those challenges are what strengthen their relationship.

About marrying young, I remember my uncle asked me how old I wanted to be when I wanted to get married. I said I wasn't sure. He told me to take my time. He waited until he was 28. I decided I would do the same thing and wait until my late 20s to marry and take my time. I always thought I should marry in my late 20s because I would be done with school and be able to afford children. I would have enough time to be young and a bachelor.  Some downsides to marring after the age of 25 is you're actually more likely to divorce. This could be because you have lived single as an adult for long enough and realize how good you have it before you get married. Getting married after your'e early 20's puts pressure on having children because your young years of having children are almost over and may put stress on whether you want to have children or not.   

Marriage has become to public when it should be more personal. When proposing it should be a connection between the couple. Marriage proposals have become to much of a media show compared to the old days when only the couple knew, they could share just to themselves. When proposing in front of many others you may feel as though you are forced into a relationship because you have to say yes. Although most couples know they will be married before they propose.