Sexual relationships in marriage

In class this week I think a very good saying brother Williams brought up is, "Sex is sacred, not secret." Growing up I knew for a long time that Sex was to be waited for marriage, but my family didn't bring it up or it was very awkward to bring up and I feel like they may have brought problems latter on. I had a vague idea on what sex was at the age of probably 6, and not that I knew the plumbing of sex, I knew it was between a man and women. I slowly learned how it worked through media and I feel it would of been better if my parents taught me that it was between a man and a women and where babies came from. Instead of figuring it out from my own curiosity from movies over the years. My parents also never actually told me Santa isn't real. I figured it out eventually and then at the certain stage where your parents realize you know, but it's not officially brought up. I just grew out of it. The awkward part was when I had to still pretend, when I knew Santa wasn't real, and it went on for an older age then it probably should of. This relates to sex because if parents eventually tell kids what sex is, at the right age, they won't have to pretend they don't know what sex is and it won't be awkward when the subject of sex is brought up. This way sex is still Sacred, but not secret.

By allowing the topic of sex be a comfortable topic to bring up, when problems of porn or of sexual abuse in the family comes up, it will be easier to talk to the parents and solve the problem. Compared if sex was secret, they may feel like they might want to keep it to themselves instead of getting help.

When having sex a man will feel warm, love and safe, but a women can't have sex tell she feels warm, love and safe. These differences in sex aren't just problems, but to strengthen relations for the man and the women to help each other achieve that feeling where they feel comfortable. By working to help each other, it becomes more than just the sexual desires and will help strengthen the trust in the relationship as well. Men also hit their climax and ejaculate before women, and then will lose those sexual feelings soon after before women. It takes longer for women to reach their climax and they will still be aroused after their climax. Men should be considerate to help the women reach their climax and not focused on just theirs. This way it doesn't feel like the man was just using her for her body and is trying to pleasure her as well. 

Another difference women have that men don't have is oxytocin.  Women will feel attachments after sex that men won't feel. Men can say they feel attachment, but women have organs, specifically just for reproduction that men just don't have. This attachment is the same attachment the women feel after having a baby. This way babies won't be left behind. Imagine that feeling a women has with a baby, with a man, and then they never see each other again. What kind of mental feelings could that have on a women? They may have attachment issues after.

When first married, some couples may feel uncomfortable about sex at first. It is better to take your time and build your sexual relation instead of rushing it and perhaps making the first time uncomfortable and not as special as you imagined. Many people remember their honey moon as very awkward because of their first time having sex. Have a fun romantic honeymoon of just being married if you want to take it slow.