Family relations

 This semester I have learned so much in my family relations class I wouldn't give up. There are so many takeaways. I always want to share what I've learned with others so I can help them, but i'm not as good at explaining as my teacher, and they are just used to the ideas of our society that they disagree with. I'm just like you can disagree, but i'm getting my information from my teacher, who is a marriage councilor, who looks at the evidence and the statistics, while you just go with what is new and popular. What I want to take away from this class is dating. How important it is to date around, so you don't rush into a relationship with someone you may not like, compared to someone you really like. I think I realize I have commitment issues. My parents are divorced and I don't want to rush into a relationship and regret later that I should have made other choices, and then also end up divorcing. The Ram Model. In our media we always see relationships where they start by touching, before they trust or know each other. I now know this is just not realistic and most relationships that start with touch fail. You have to start with know and then work to commit, and then last you can touch. This will be very important when I get back into dating. 

Other information i'm taking with me is, waiting util your'e 30 to get married. I remember my uncle asked me when I was going to get married, and then told me there's no hurry, and that he got married at age 28. Now what are some problems with waiting until after 25. Your wife and you are used to living in their own ways and it's hard to now live with someone else. Kids are a harder choice to decide, and may feel it's too late. The early point of marriage at a younger age when finances are tight, is what brings a marriage closer together and grows. A marriage that starts with no problems, may not have to grow and not have that connection together. It really has changed my perspective and is something I now agree with, that it's not worth waiting too long, and you can really miss your timing. 

If I can fit more family classes into my schedule in the future I would definitely take more. It is something that strengthens every family and should be encouraged to learn because of how important it is. Family really is the core of society and you can see as the media is trying to break the family our morals are falling. That is why I wanted to take this class to know how to raise strong children, and a strong marriage, and I feel like I have definitely learned how. I did also take the class because I have seen problems with my own family growing up, with divorce and fighting, and I just want to do every thing I can to avoid those things. 

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