Malakai's Thoughts

 This week I learned what it means to take care and provide for your family, what may usually be the role of the father. I read an article of what it meant to be a father and it was interesting, some things I agree with, but some things I may disagree with as well. The article was Dad vs. Father: what's the difference and why should you care?, by Daniel Ruyter, and the article's main point discussed whats the difference between the definition of being a biological dad, and someone who is there for child, someone who provides for them, loves them, cares for them, helps them grow. He brings up how many fathers in america will be the biological father, but are out the door or are not caring in the way it is to be a dad. He was a single dad with 2 boys, and he did more caring than a father who left who may have 5 children. The top 5 takeaways I would get from this article is, be a caring dad not just a father, dad and father have two different meanings, the term dad has a lot of me...

This week I learned a lot about communicating with the family. In my own Family many of the fights are just from lack of communicated and I think to myself, if only every one can discuss all their feelings before jumping to conclusions their wouldn't be this contention. It can be hard to be the middle man between two family members who are not talking, and use you to communicate. It's like playing a game of telephone and usually the information will get mixed up along the way. Communication is a very important tool, because once one family member decides to cut you off, it could have troubling effects on your relationship and you aren't able to talk it out to make things better. What I find interesting is how we can sense how someone is feeling mostly from their body language, Second tone of their voice, and then lastly their words can sometimes hardly reflect how they are actually feeling. I can tell when someone doesn't want to be around me, even if they say they do, ...

 I am someone who always tries to avoid any conflict. That is probably why I am the one in the family who never gets in fights, the one who is always trying to talk others down from fights, and hiding when contention starts to erupt. This has been a good thing in life for sure, but also a problem because I can also be a push over or someone who avoids conflict when I need to address the problem instead of letting the problem get out of hand. Stress is definitely a good thing to have surprisingly. I have to admit, before I took my family relations class I wanted to wait to get married and have children after I had finished school and had a job, so my family wouldn't have the stress of having to deal with having a low budget. Although having to go through those hard times can strengthen a family. Children who never have to work for anything in life and have wealthy parents aren't successful as children who didn't have as much and had to work for what they have, because they v...

In class this week I think a very good saying brother Williams brought up is, "Sex is sacred, not secret." Growing up I knew for a long time that Sex was to be waited for marriage, but my family didn't bring it up or it was very awkward to bring up and I feel like they may have brought problems latter on. I had a vague idea on what sex was at the age of probably 6, and not that I knew the plumbing of sex, I knew it was between a man and women. I slowly learned how it worked through media and I feel it would of been better if my parents taught me that it was between a man and a women and where babies came from. Instead of figuring it out from my own curiosity from movies over the years. My parents also never actually told me Santa isn't real. I figured it out eventually and then at the certain stage where your parents realize you know, but it's not officially brought up. I just grew out of it. The awkward part was when I had to still pretend, when I knew Santa wasn...

 This week I recently watched a tik tok of a woman who was saying how wrong everyone was who was telling her to have children were. She says she was told she would be lonely and regret it later when shes too old and wish she would of had children. Now she's 50, Debt free and living the life she's always wanted.  In the comments many others were happy for her, and were agreeing with her choice. I disagree, with her choices, but I think if she doesn't want to have children others should respect her choices. Although it's sad to see her and many others influencing others by giving them a false reality that life is better when you choose your self over raising children. You will also see this in our society by showing women they are better off in the workforce than at home watching their children grow up. Another reason many of these people don't want to have children and are following this trend is they don't want to grow up and have responsibility. This generation...

 Dating is so important more than ever for people to get to know others in our society. I noticed friends I have talked to are very afraid to date, including myself, because of rejection. I saw the dating for fun model as kind of bad, because it showed you didn't call back it meant you weren't in to me and felt that I was less special because I knew they would be dating with many other people. I see that those are my own insecurities, because with friends I notice if I am not as outgoing as they like, they may get board of me and move on. Those friends aren't as good compared to the ones that will stay by you even on your boring days. Although it's always good to have many friends, just don't move on from your loyal friends just because someone of better comes into your life at the moment. I am of full support now for the date around model, because you can meet different types of people. The problem with quickly getting into a relationship is you can't experienc...